Unexpected Family

21 Jan

2013-07-05 04.25.31

My dad is the oldest of 7 and my mom is the youngest of 4, that being said, I have many cousins, aunts and uncles. Here’s the thing, when my parents immigrated to the United States in 1972, it was just us; me, mom, and dad…no other family. So what happens when you have no family around? You find people in similar situations, similar interests, or maybe just genuinely lonely and you make a family. I grew up with several other Filipino families who we met in our Detroit apartment complex, church, work, etc. who became my ‘cousins’, ‘aunts/uncles’, and ‘grandparents’. I don’t remember a time flipswhen families and extended family grew up and stayed in the same area. I know people who have this and it’s awesome, but with the changing times, changing family units, and the changing economy, families seem to spread all over the place for most folks. What’s the definition of family? Traditionally, family is defined as ‘a group consisting of parents and children living together in a household’ but I also found the definition of a family as ‘a group united by significant shared characteristics’.

The past few weeks have been filled with some super happy exciting things that I will talk about soon and at the same time the past week has been boutextremely stressful and at times frightening. Some of you know that I started getting involved with a local roller derby team over the summer. My time with them has been off and on because of a knee injury and now the current situation I’m in, but last Saturday as they welcomed me once again with open arms it was overwhelming. I couldn’t help but feel like I had another group of people that have become family. I have found unexpected family as a child through friends of family, and as an adult through a college sorority, work, church, and now derby. I am so grateful. There are many people who are lonely and have little to no blood relatives around, what’s your part? Would my life be different if my parents did not put themselves out there or if people had not reached out to us? Absolutely. Hands and eyes wide open, someone needs you as much as you need them.’There are the families that we are born into, and there are thederbysis families that we choose our circle of friends. While their faces may change over the course of our lives, the joy they bring us remains constant.’~unknown

Today I wear YSL Volupte’ Tint In Oil in Drive Me Copper. It’s winter in Michigan and my lips tend to get dry. I was introduced to these just a couple days ago and WOW. It’s oily but not greasy, it’s lighter but not exactly a balm or a gloss. I can’t really describe it but it’s awesome! It has a wash of color, enough to wear alone and since it’s YSL, it’s a bit pricey, but WOW. I chose this color because it’s like glistening gold on my lips (like sunshine)…cheers!


6 Responses to “Unexpected Family”

  1. Judy Janke January 21, 2015 at 6:58 pm #

    OMGOODNESS!!!!! I didn’t know you were doing that!! Be careful! Looks like fun.

    • Anna January 21, 2015 at 7:02 pm #

      It’s fun and scary at the same time! Great group of women!!

  2. bevmaunus January 21, 2015 at 7:23 pm #

    Anna, I love your posts and I love your heart. I left all my family when I moved to the States 29 years ago. They all remain in England. I have 3 grown daughters and 3 grandchildren. We are raising our 6 year old grandson due to my daughter’s divorce and pill / alcohol addiction. Life is so beautiful and so very hard at the same time. I have found the struggles and testing burn off my desires to live for my own desires and not the will God has for me. I soften and have compassion and humility that only suffering can create! I just wanted to say hi and thank you for your posts!


    Sent from my iPhone

    • Anna January 21, 2015 at 7:28 pm #

      Thank you for your kind words and for reading my blog! I love your sentence that life is so beautiful and so hard at the same time…so true. Thanks for sharing a little of your story with me too šŸ™‚ God Bless!

  3. Grace January 22, 2015 at 8:05 am #

    Love you, sister! šŸ™‚

    • Anna January 22, 2015 at 8:11 am #

      Love you too! Thanks for all of your love, prayers, and support šŸ™‚

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